At church this past Sunday morning the sermon was about Moses coming down off of the mountain after being in God's presence for 40 days and nights. When he came down carrying the tablets for the second time His face was radiantly shining. This happened every time he spent time in the presence of God. He spent time "beholding" God and he was therefore becoming more godly.
Then the pastor said "We become like what we behold"
Well, that got my attention! I began to take some notes, but gave up in favor of going back and viewing the video later in the day. The beginning part of his sermon was chock full of reasons why we should home school! This was, I am sure, not his intention. But there it was! There is no denying it!
The following quotes are listed in the order in which they were stated:
"We are influenced by those we spend the most time with"
*Why would we send our children off to a day care or a school building where they are influenced by their teachers and peers for the majority of their productive day?
"It matters who we keep company with"
*Do we really know all of the people that our children come into contact with each day? Do we trust them? Do we personally know them? The children? Their families?
"We adopt the values, perspectives, and habits from the people we spend the most time with"
*Teachers, aides, students, etc........do we know what the values, perspectives, and habits are of all of these people? Would we be okay with them if we did?
"Are those people we spend time with good for us?"
*Can you really honestly answer yes to this question? Think about it?
"Do they bring us closer to the Lord or farther away?"
*Public school is never going to bring you closer to God. It will only drive a wedge of doubt into your child's heart and mind. It is a place where it is illegal to mention God.
"All our lives we become like what we behold"
*From the cradle to the grave! We become what we behold. That is a profound statement in regards to sending your children out of your christian home into a pagan world to learn.
"It benefits us always to make sure that we are gazing upon and investing our time in that which is good and that which is godly"
*I guess you could make a slight argument for some good in public education. But it does not outweigh the ungodly, not one bit! And it is progressively getting worse.
A child in public school can easily spend the majority of every school day beholding, investing in, and being influenced by that which is not known for godliness.
As Christians we owe it to our children and our grandchildren to guide them in the way that is right and godly.
A public education, or in my opinion, any education outside of the home, is not in the best interest of Christian children.
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Tuesday, December 17, 2019
Tuesday, September 13, 2016
don't call me Miss Karen
Do you allow children to call you by your first name?
It's time to correct the wrongs committed by my generation. When I was a child in the 1960's, I don't recall ever calling any adult by their first name. It was Aunt, Uncle, Mr. Mrs. It was respectful. It's what you were taught to do.
Then the 1970's came along with all of the so -called "freedoms" and the respect went right out the window. some people even went so far as to use first names with their parents!!
When my generation started their families, it became popular to call neighbors, babysitters, teachers, nearly every adult in a child's life by their first names. I think some people thought it respectful to teach their kids to say "Miss Karen" instead of "Mrs. Smith". It's not.
Living in the North, we were not raised to say "ma'am" and "sir". I'm not sure why we weren't taught that way, but it is kind of sad.
I would like to see my grandchildren taught to speak respectfully to all adults and to not use their first names. This is a little off-topic, but I don't like the habit of giving titles to people. An example would be calling people "aunt" or "uncle" when they are not related. This is confusing to children.
I also would like to see my grandchildren speak to adults using the titles "ma'am" and "sir" We teach them to say "please" and "thank you" Let's teach them to use respectful titles when speaking to their elders. If we require it when they are young, then it will become habit.
It's not to late to start this! This current generation is ready and willing to learn!
It's time to correct the wrongs committed by my generation. When I was a child in the 1960's, I don't recall ever calling any adult by their first name. It was Aunt, Uncle, Mr. Mrs. It was respectful. It's what you were taught to do.
Then the 1970's came along with all of the so -called "freedoms" and the respect went right out the window. some people even went so far as to use first names with their parents!!
When my generation started their families, it became popular to call neighbors, babysitters, teachers, nearly every adult in a child's life by their first names. I think some people thought it respectful to teach their kids to say "Miss Karen" instead of "Mrs. Smith". It's not.
Living in the North, we were not raised to say "ma'am" and "sir". I'm not sure why we weren't taught that way, but it is kind of sad.
I would like to see my grandchildren taught to speak respectfully to all adults and to not use their first names. This is a little off-topic, but I don't like the habit of giving titles to people. An example would be calling people "aunt" or "uncle" when they are not related. This is confusing to children.
I also would like to see my grandchildren speak to adults using the titles "ma'am" and "sir" We teach them to say "please" and "thank you" Let's teach them to use respectful titles when speaking to their elders. If we require it when they are young, then it will become habit.
It's not to late to start this! This current generation is ready and willing to learn!
Monday, August 15, 2016
A letter to young mothers
disclaimer: this is written to stay at home mothers, not career women.
Dear young mother,
Don't let your kids biggest memories of growing up be of riding in the car to this activity and that activity, this adventure and that adventure. Kids biggest memories of growing up should center around their own backyard.
No wonder the current generation of mothers is so concerned about car seats and what not! Their kids spend endless hours strapped into them being carted all over God's green earth!
Stay home! That's what kids want to do! Make your adventures happen at home and make memories at home!
Stay home! You are paying lots of money to own a home. Live in it, love it, embrace it, and create it!!
When all of the fun times and adventures happen away from the home, then kids will be bored at home.
Stay home! Build forts, set up a pool & sprinkler, make cookies, do crafts, etc. And in those quiet moments when the kids are occupied in some imaginative adventure then you should.............
Get to work! Get your housework done in bits and pieces, but get it done! Dishes, laundry, wiping down, sweeping up, do it daily then it won't build up. Cook big and less often. Make a menu and shop once a week then stay out of the stores! Spend less money that way!
A husband who works all day deserves to come home to a restful and tidy home and a meal already prepared. This is not 1950's nostalgia, it is still 2016 reality.
You are young, you can do it!!! you have it in you!!! I have faith that you can do it! If you get your days into a rhythm there will be harmony.
Kids do not want to be dragged around and neither do husbands. They want their home to be their sanctuary and it is your calling in life to make it just that.
Yours truly,
Old mother
Dear young mother,
Don't let your kids biggest memories of growing up be of riding in the car to this activity and that activity, this adventure and that adventure. Kids biggest memories of growing up should center around their own backyard.
No wonder the current generation of mothers is so concerned about car seats and what not! Their kids spend endless hours strapped into them being carted all over God's green earth!
Stay home! That's what kids want to do! Make your adventures happen at home and make memories at home!
Stay home! You are paying lots of money to own a home. Live in it, love it, embrace it, and create it!!
When all of the fun times and adventures happen away from the home, then kids will be bored at home.
Stay home! Build forts, set up a pool & sprinkler, make cookies, do crafts, etc. And in those quiet moments when the kids are occupied in some imaginative adventure then you should.............
Get to work! Get your housework done in bits and pieces, but get it done! Dishes, laundry, wiping down, sweeping up, do it daily then it won't build up. Cook big and less often. Make a menu and shop once a week then stay out of the stores! Spend less money that way!
A husband who works all day deserves to come home to a restful and tidy home and a meal already prepared. This is not 1950's nostalgia, it is still 2016 reality.
You are young, you can do it!!! you have it in you!!! I have faith that you can do it! If you get your days into a rhythm there will be harmony.
Kids do not want to be dragged around and neither do husbands. They want their home to be their sanctuary and it is your calling in life to make it just that.
Yours truly,
Old mother
Sunday, August 7, 2016
being responsible with alcohol
When I was growing up there was a shelf in the kitchen that served as the "bar" It was loaded with alcohol at all times. Whenever company came drinks were dispensed. It then grew into daily drinks by our parents of their favorite spirits: mint creme and amaretto, as I recall. I don't remember beer being a staple, but I have memories of it being around and sips offered to children in the summer.
It is then surprising to me that only three out of six children grew into having problems with addiction; either at some point in their lives, or for their entire life to date. The lack of parental guidance in all areas of life combined with the free acceptance of drinking alcoholic beverages on a regular basis played a significant part in the total dysfunction of the family.
Now I get personal. I didn't drink anything alcoholic until I was eighteen years old. I did not then go overboard and party like a crazy person, but alcohol was a pretty steady part of my life for the years that followed. Looking back on my life now I can clearly see how I used alcohol to handle the stresses of life. Hard day at work: Have a drink! Difficult day at home with the kids? Have a drink! And I'm talking about beer or wine here. Seems innocent enough to just take the edge off a little, doesn't it?
At some point I began to hear God speaking LOUDLY to my heart: "Karen, you have a pattern of reaching for a drink when you have a stressful day. You are turning to alcohol instead of turning to Me." I also continually heard Him saying "I want something different for your family."
That is when I made the decision that no alcohol would be kept in the house or consumed in front of the children. Pretty extreme. But necessary, and I have never regretted that decision. When the kids grew up I loosened the reigns a bit because they had made it through the teen years without developing bad habits.
I now wish that I had kept the same strict guidelines for a longer period of time. I now keep some alcohol in my house but I rarely to never have a "stress drink". When I do I recognize it and acknowledge it as wrong behavior and worthy of re correcting.
There is no daily drinking in my home and usually weeks go by without an alcoholic drink. But it is a tightrope walk and I must walk in a responsible, careful manner. I enjoy an occasional beer or a glass of wine, or a cocktail. But that is the key word right there: occasional.
It is when it becomes a regular feature of your life, even one beer every day may indicate a problem.
What is more important is what message we are sending to our little ones. Do we want them to think that drinking beer every day is okay? Its not and I don't want them to grow up thinking that.
Having an occasional drink while not in the presence of children is okay. It's called self control and its called responsible parenting and grand parenting.
It is then surprising to me that only three out of six children grew into having problems with addiction; either at some point in their lives, or for their entire life to date. The lack of parental guidance in all areas of life combined with the free acceptance of drinking alcoholic beverages on a regular basis played a significant part in the total dysfunction of the family.
Now I get personal. I didn't drink anything alcoholic until I was eighteen years old. I did not then go overboard and party like a crazy person, but alcohol was a pretty steady part of my life for the years that followed. Looking back on my life now I can clearly see how I used alcohol to handle the stresses of life. Hard day at work: Have a drink! Difficult day at home with the kids? Have a drink! And I'm talking about beer or wine here. Seems innocent enough to just take the edge off a little, doesn't it?
At some point I began to hear God speaking LOUDLY to my heart: "Karen, you have a pattern of reaching for a drink when you have a stressful day. You are turning to alcohol instead of turning to Me." I also continually heard Him saying "I want something different for your family."
That is when I made the decision that no alcohol would be kept in the house or consumed in front of the children. Pretty extreme. But necessary, and I have never regretted that decision. When the kids grew up I loosened the reigns a bit because they had made it through the teen years without developing bad habits.
I now wish that I had kept the same strict guidelines for a longer period of time. I now keep some alcohol in my house but I rarely to never have a "stress drink". When I do I recognize it and acknowledge it as wrong behavior and worthy of re correcting.
There is no daily drinking in my home and usually weeks go by without an alcoholic drink. But it is a tightrope walk and I must walk in a responsible, careful manner. I enjoy an occasional beer or a glass of wine, or a cocktail. But that is the key word right there: occasional.
It is when it becomes a regular feature of your life, even one beer every day may indicate a problem.
What is more important is what message we are sending to our little ones. Do we want them to think that drinking beer every day is okay? Its not and I don't want them to grow up thinking that.
Having an occasional drink while not in the presence of children is okay. It's called self control and its called responsible parenting and grand parenting.
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